Tuesday, April 24, 2018

Failure and Self-Love

Have you ever done something, worked really hard, spent a lot of time, or just gave it a small try and just failed? Completely and totally failed?

How'd you feel afterwards? Beaten down? Sad? Angry? Ready to give up and never try that thing again?

That's how I felt when I contaminated a batch of lemon lotion bars with water today. I made the base a while ago and melted it down to add the essential oil and pour into the tubes. It was a great plan! While it was melting I went to the computer to work on new labels for more products. I came back, and found water bubbles in the oil.

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I was so angry at myself. In my head I was beating myself up. Calling myself stupid, an idiot, replaying the whole situation in my head and trying to find ways to fix it. I cried. Because in my mind I had wasted the time I spent working on those sticks, and I deserved the mental tongue lashing.

I don't though. I don't deserve the mental beatings for contaminating lotion bars, screwing up dinner, messing up a test at work, having a messy house, cancelling on a friend, and any other reason I come up with to beat myself up.

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You don't deserve it either. That voice in our heads who's decided it's job is to beat you up for everything you think and do is wrong. You don't have to listen to it.

Failure can be looked at as a lesson from life. I learned a lesson today with my lotion bars, and I will not be doing that again. Every failure or mistake can teach me something. If I remember that when I screw up hopefully the voice in my head won't find any reason to be mean to me.

Maybe someday, when I fail, I will be able to just see that lesson, learn from it, and try again.

But some days, the best thing you can do, is move away from the problem, relax, and come back to it later. That's ok too.